The Hard Questions

We were looking for a book that asked just the right amount of questions, not too many, not too few, but enough GOOD questions to make us really think about our relationship and how we'll handle certain issues. Basically, we were the Goldilocks of marriage prep books. As Mr. KM put it "We don't ever want to have a "throw things at each other" fight, so we'll figure out how to deal with things before it comes to that"... he said it much more eloquently, but you get the idea. So. The books! There are a TON of them out there. Seriously, a ton. This is only a tiny sprinkle of what we even looked at! I don't want to turn it into a whole series, but PM me if you want more suggestions.

Also, shout out to my lovely waiting bees! All of these would be awesome before you get engaged (we started ours before we got engaged) just to get a head start.

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Clearly, this one had TOO many questions, largely repetitive, and about alot of things that weren't relevant (pets, for example). Seriously, 1001 questions is ALOT!

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I've heard good things about it even for people who are already engaged, but... we couldn't find it on the shelf. It's religion based, just so you know, but feel free to gloss over those questions if you're not into that because the rest of the questions are solid.

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Same author. Also religious based, but more of a workbook than a book of questions. However, it covers setting up finances, which is exciting! Not really, but totally necessary.

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Alright, I liked this one alot! It only has 500 questions! And I liked the title cause I like saying "Don't you DARE". But Mr. KM decided 500 was too many... my thought was that you don't have to answer EVERY SINGLE ONE! You can pick and choose, but apparently that's not how we ourselves are going to play that game. So it got nixed.

There was one book that he really, really liked, but we couldn't use it because the author apparently used every single argument Mr. KM would have used and it would have been an unfair advantage. Also, I can't remember what book it was.

So here's the book we chose. It claims to be a NYT (New York Times for those not in "the know") bestseller and I know it's one that has been recommended to me before by people coming in to look for the same kind of book.

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So far, I really, really like it. Don't let it fool you; it's a super unassuming book- very small and thin. But the cover is letterpressed! It breaks the questions down into chapters like "Home", "Money", "Work", "Community and Family"... you get the point. There are little intro passages at the beginning of each chapter- I find them boring but Mr. KM likes them. We're working our way through "Home" right now, which asks a bunch of questions about what you want your house to look like and where you want to live, and even though that sounds lame, we've had some good discussions that have spun off from it before we complete the question. Also, we have very different decorating tastes.

Not going to lie, I was terrified of doing one of these books, especially one named "The Hard Questions" (really, who does that? That's a scary title) but it's been really fun and really interesting. And the questions, though concise, are scary but not overwhelming. There's not a whole lot of fluff in this book, but it makes you think. A+!