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Confession: I've never seen this movie. But I do love me some Whitney Houston pre- and post the "Crack is whack" phase.
I am marrying a preacher. That's weird. I great up going to church, went to a private Christian high school, etc. etc. but... a preacher's wife I am not. I'm not afraid to tell you exactly what I think, I cuss (sorry, Mom!), I can make the boys blush when they're trying to out tell dirty jokes with each other, I occasionally drink (but never in large amounts). Don't get me wrong, I'm a good, proper girl most of the time. Southern, sweet, funny, polite. But like I said, most of the time. And I don't deal well with conforming to the molds of others expectations. Preacher's wives have alot of expectations put into place for them by sheer virtue of being married to the preacher. And I have a hard time with the thought of living up to those expectations that I don't have for myself.
I have high expectations for myself, but they involve the business world. I need to go back to school, and I need to get a different job. I don't have the motivation or effort to become a full-time stereotypical preacher's wife, raising kids and hosting dinner parties every week. Don't get me wrong, I LOVE hosting dinner parties, but I don't want to be expected to.
A has a super small, little church in a small town. A small, older congregation. And they are wonderful. I've been to his church exactly once in the 6 months that he's been there. We went to a soup dinner! And I made the best pumpkin cheesecake cupcakes EVER. They loved me (of course) but I don't ever see myself getting involved with any church A may preach at. A doesn't actually want to be head of a church, though... his goal is to teach at a college! We still might end up serving a church somewhere, but we won't know until we hear back from grad programs.
But our wedding still will have expectations from us and our families since he is a preacher. We'll be getting married in a church or chapel, by an ordained minister, with the most traditional service possible. We'll be doing premarital counseling, and we've already started working through a book of pre-marriage questions. We'll be doing communion. No secular music. We're limited in what we can play with in terms of ceremony, but there's something sweet and timeless about doing things the "old-fashioned" way. I'm so excited, and a little nervous!
I am marrying a preacher. That's weird. I great up going to church, went to a private Christian high school, etc. etc. but... a preacher's wife I am not. I'm not afraid to tell you exactly what I think, I cuss (sorry, Mom!), I can make the boys blush when they're trying to out tell dirty jokes with each other, I occasionally drink (but never in large amounts). Don't get me wrong, I'm a good, proper girl most of the time. Southern, sweet, funny, polite. But like I said, most of the time. And I don't deal well with conforming to the molds of others expectations. Preacher's wives have alot of expectations put into place for them by sheer virtue of being married to the preacher. And I have a hard time with the thought of living up to those expectations that I don't have for myself.
I have high expectations for myself, but they involve the business world. I need to go back to school, and I need to get a different job. I don't have the motivation or effort to become a full-time stereotypical preacher's wife, raising kids and hosting dinner parties every week. Don't get me wrong, I LOVE hosting dinner parties, but I don't want to be expected to.
A has a super small, little church in a small town. A small, older congregation. And they are wonderful. I've been to his church exactly once in the 6 months that he's been there. We went to a soup dinner! And I made the best pumpkin cheesecake cupcakes EVER. They loved me (of course) but I don't ever see myself getting involved with any church A may preach at. A doesn't actually want to be head of a church, though... his goal is to teach at a college! We still might end up serving a church somewhere, but we won't know until we hear back from grad programs.
But our wedding still will have expectations from us and our families since he is a preacher. We'll be getting married in a church or chapel, by an ordained minister, with the most traditional service possible. We'll be doing premarital counseling, and we've already started working through a book of pre-marriage questions. We'll be doing communion. No secular music. We're limited in what we can play with in terms of ceremony, but there's something sweet and timeless about doing things the "old-fashioned" way. I'm so excited, and a little nervous!
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